Comments on: Could we still be friends? http://janderson.net/blog/2008/04/could-we-still-be-friends/ My life. My words... Wed, 28 Sep 2011 04:22:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: jimbo http://janderson.net/blog/2008/04/could-we-still-be-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-7 jimbo Thu, 10 Apr 2008 18:40:00 +0000 http://janderson.net/blog/?p=30#comment-7 Man... Do you wanna split a pint of ice cream while watching Sex in the City?<br/><br/>You did go a little chicky, but that's ok. Thanks for the advise.<br/><br/>We are kind to each other, and try to be as understanding to the other's needs as much as possible. We have our moments though. All and all things are good with us. This was just one situation that really stood out and hit me in the face, ya know?<br/><br/>Thanks again. Man… Do you wanna split a pint of ice cream while watching Sex in the City?

You did go a little chicky, but that’s ok. Thanks for the advise.

We are kind to each other, and try to be as understanding to the other’s needs as much as possible. We have our moments though. All and all things are good with us. This was just one situation that really stood out and hit me in the face, ya know?

Thanks again.

]]> By: Alecto http://janderson.net/blog/2008/04/could-we-still-be-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-6 Alecto Wed, 09 Apr 2008 20:20:00 +0000 http://janderson.net/blog/?p=30#comment-6 ok, here's some unsolicited advice (information, really) from a two time offender (I'm on my third marriage).<br/>1. It takes a lot longer than most people would think to get over and past a marriage, no matter how much you might want to.<br/>2. Distance is often the only way to achieve this.<br/><br/>Given that you do not have children (sorry, Jade doesn't really count) you have the right and the ability to isolate yourselves from each other. I don't know any other way to get on with the grieving process, which is exactly what happens for both parties.<br/><br/>I'm so sorry you're going through this; both of you, and I wish you safety and healing as you move on with your lives. But mostly, be gentle and forgiving of yourself and your feelings.<br/><br/>Man, how's that for getting all chick on you? ok, here’s some unsolicited advice (information, really) from a two time offender (I’m on my third marriage).
1. It takes a lot longer than most people would think to get over and past a marriage, no matter how much you might want to.
2. Distance is often the only way to achieve this.

Given that you do not have children (sorry, Jade doesn’t really count) you have the right and the ability to isolate yourselves from each other. I don’t know any other way to get on with the grieving process, which is exactly what happens for both parties.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this; both of you, and I wish you safety and healing as you move on with your lives. But mostly, be gentle and forgiving of yourself and your feelings.

Man, how’s that for getting all chick on you?

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