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I have a secret to tell you…


Anja, Anja, Anja… You think you have me where you want me. You think the ball is in your court. You think you’ve had the last laugh. I’m not surprised. You never really think things all the way through. That was part of the problem with our marriage. Actions have consequences. For example: If you lock the corner of your apron into the time delayed safe at work, and wait for time to elapse so you can free yourself from the safe while not realizing you could simply take the apron off. Your friends are going to make fun of you… For a really long time.

On Saturday evening Anja called me and said she was “DONE!” Said that I stole her 401k and savings, that I already signed the divorce papers stating husband and wife will split everything, that she took what she wanted from the house and moved out, that my “little girlfriend” and I can move in and do what ever the fuck I wanted, and that she’s been stealing my half of the mortgage payments that I’ve transfered into the joint checking account for her to match and pay for the last few months.
What Anja fails to realize is that yes, she investing her 401k and savings into the house. Money take could be recouped. I’ve told Anja I don’t expect to receive any amount of money from the house selling. I also spent $14,000 dollars of MY money moving us up to Portland. A choice that she had 50% responsibility in making. Do I expect to see any of that money back? No. Do I blame her for us spending that money? No. But in her eyes I have stolen from her, so she must steal from me. Two wrongs make a right now a days, right?
I went to the house Saturday evening to take a look. She took damn near everything. She even took the shower rod. There was a notice on the door stating that the water has been shut off for lack of payment, and because Anja is acting in such a mature manner she took a dump in the toilet and didn’t flush. There was still water in the tank. I flushed it. Speaking of mature things… she took a lot of my tools, my surround sound system, my Les Paul guitar, and the footswitch to my line 6 amp. If she was smart she would have taken the expensive stuff like my Line 6 Flextone II HD amp (which isn’t made any more so replacing it would cost a LOT!), or my Basson 4×12 cab.
She took the water cooler that she bought me for christmas (The world’s crappiest gift ever, BTW), the blanket and pillows that my Mom bought for herself so she had something of high quality to sleep with when she would visit (We’re poor), BUT she did have 1/4 ounce of decency to leave me my High School ring that my Grandmother bought me.
Am I upset? Not really. I have the important things. I have my dog, my current and future happiness, and my passion. Things she can’t take from me. So what if the house defaults! Sure I wont be able to buy a home in the next 2 to 3 years. I’m not in the position to do that anyway. I’ve registered for school. Working full time and going to school is going to occupy all of my time. I wont have free time to kill on upgrading and maintaining a home. Nor will I have the savings for a down on a house. That’s why I’m going to school. Gotta get smart to get paid!
Here are some photos of my nearly empty house.


Oh yea… My secret. I almost forgot to tell you my secret. The divorce isn’t finalized, lawyers can be talked too, judges can be seen, and police reports can be filed… Oh wait. That last part has already been done.

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